Social-Media, Depression or Confidence – What is Making Us so Needy?
What is this thing with people being so loud in public places? Have you even been in a place that looks plush but often occupies people that don’t fit the bill? I often wonder what is it that makes people behave a certain way in public places. There was a time when we were taught to be mannerly and courteous in public places. I’d get told off if I’d ever be loud in a coffee shop or if my behaviour ever attracted unnecessary attention but it seems like the odd is the new routine nowadays.
Wondering what I am talking about?
I am talking about people acting all big in public places. There will always be one or two people who are louder than others or people who laugh in such a way that you have to notice them. What makes people act in that way? Are they naturally that loud? Is it their confidence that attracts all the attention or it is their insecurity and the long to be noticed that makes them the odd one out?
We live in a democratic society where every one has the right to do what ever they want to do and act like they want to act but the ‘notice me’ culture is beyond me. I strongly believe that these are the people who have not been loved while growing up. Either their elders were too occupied with life or too indifferent to show a decent amount of care which has made people so insecure and attention seekers.
I decline to believe that confidence makes people loud. Confidence gives a kind of content that is unmatched thus, a secure person going into a coffee shop or restaurant will not attempt to seek attention. He will calmly walk in, do whatever it is that he has to and will leave. An insecure person, on the other hand, will go out of his way to attract as much attention as possible. Whether it is about talking loudly, being louder while talking about money or foreign trips or while telling fancy tales from his past.
Is social media also responsible for altering the way we lived or for making the odd acceptable. Social-media has made people greedy for attention. If no one looks at people for just two minutes, they start checking the camera on their phone to make sure that they are looking good. If someone doesn’t notice their new clothes, they’d go to the toilets to click a selfie and post online so that people notice and review. Anything on the name of review is acceptable, even criticism and destructive criticism is equally acceptable. Buy, why?
Why do we have to be so needy, so under confident, so shallow and so superficial? What makes it okay for people to be so out of line and disturbing when in public places. Succumbing to this reefy addiction is easy but is it worth it? Such self-consumption can surely be attractive and intriguing for sometime but the long term impact that it will leave can never be constructive. It not only makes people frown at you every time you show up somewhere, it also makes you worthy of contempt and scowl. I reckon, attention at the cost of respect can never be worth it but then the decision is all yours. You can always make your pick but it would be wise to be wiser with the choices you make.